I get at state tournaments or if you drive several hours and have a legit shot at winning the whole thing. But if you are asked to be on a dual team or have a chance to double bracket. Then do it. Give up weight, age and experience for the experience. So many parents are afraid to let their kid loose matches to someone because they are bigger or older. Trust when I say my son would not be nearly as good as he is if I didn't put him in situations to loose some of the time. You may be like me and surprised when your kid actually beats some of them older boys. After all it doesn't matter till GALAXIES some day anyways.
I am just saying in the many years of putting dual teams together, if a coach calls you and wants your kid on the team, the answer should almost always be YES, what are the details, when, where, what weight and how much. Now if money or previous plans are an issue then I get it. But he is to small or to young to wrestle that level is an excuse that you or the kid cant handle an L. Well surprise if you are afraid you will be seeing plenty of L's in his short career.
HAHA your right.. I agree we have done duals, and made it work when it couldn't. But if you can think of anyone in particular let's call them out. I like to hear the excuses, I have heard them all in this sport why lil Johnny cant.
Every situation is different and every kid is different and lots of kids will be at different places in their attraction/devotion to the sport over time and there are definitely points where it's a really bad idea to put a kid in a situation where they are clearly in over their heads. I think this is especially true in a youth dual team environment.
Lots of these dual tournaments have teams that are fairly stacked top to bottom and throwing an inexperienced younger wrestler who's still getting a feel for the sport into that situation can turn someone into a former wrestler. Especially in the situations where you are needing to fill those bottom-tier weights and pull in a K or 1st grade only to find them up against 5th and 6th graders who just haven't grown much yet. Keep in mind that sometimes it's not only demoralizing to take a beating with everyone watching, but it can be downright painful. If you are really going to be strong-arming inexperienced wrestlers to take a day full of beatings then at a minimum I'd want them to understand what they are up against and go into it with their eyes open before they come to the conclusion that this sport just plain sucks.
So if the question is really "why lil Johnny can't", I'd say maybe it wasn't in lil Johnny's best interests. Folks tend to focus on the elite kids, but let's be honest - the majority of kids don't need to try that hard to find a situation where they are going to take an "L".
I'll play Devil's advocate here: Which is worse- parents that are afraid to have their kids step up their competition level in fear of losing/lowering their kids track profile ranking or parents who redshirt their kids to gain a competitive advantage?
I think it depends on the kid. We did the AAU duals in Tennessee last year. One of my boys had just turned 7 as a first grader. He wrestled everything from third to sixth graders. He didnt have a winning record but he really got a kick out of trying to beat the older kids. Think he finished 3 and 4. I'm confident he came out a better wrestler for it. However I'm not sure my older son would have taken it as well if the circumstances were the same. Probably would have discouraged him. Takes some special kids to jump on that K-6th dual team being young. Gotta be willing to take some lumps.
Ever since my son was little we chased kids. We would go to a tournament and I would watch him get beat, the next time we would see those kids I would try to get him in there bracket. I would even call tournaments ahead of time if I knew kids were going to be there that had previously beat my kid and request it ahead of time. If they agreed, we registered. I was surprised when I found out there were parents that actually did the opposite. I would also put my kids record down as 50-0 to ensure he would get a couple of ass beaters. I think some big wrestling guy once said something about getting what you earn. 😉
Humble experiences is great. It's also a roller coaster of a ride sometimes. Last year at district duals my son beat the kid that finished 2nd at state but only went 1 and 2 at state its self. So enjoy the ride and keep them humble if they are getting to big of an ego