Post by davidjoyner on Feb 11, 2019 8:39:52 GMT -6
My nephew has been on and off with wresting for a few years and missed a lot of wrestling early this season due to an injury. He does a lot of really good things when he wrestles but then he does some really bad things.
He is about .500 this season and looking back he either pins or loses in the first. He's a fifth grader at about 125 and he is pretty much wrestling 6th graders and I know this is a tough age to be at the bottom.
So he wrestled last weekend and went against a kid that has placed at Iowa state twice and another that placed in nebraska. He got in deep on both kids this weekend and then decided to try and reach and put his head to that mat and got stuck both times.
My oldest son struggled when he was young and then all of the sudden in 6th grade it seemed to just click. He placed twice in 6th and 7th and won state in 8th - so my question is this the normal path of a wrestler....will it just come? He doesn't want to quit and I don't want him to - just to be clear we don't spend as much time wrestling as we do with baseball and football.
For those of you that don't do the national circuit with your kids is this just a progression? Does every wrestler just have to learn that for every good move there is ten things you can do wrong from there?
It's just a struggle to watch him and know he has a lot of potential and will he turn out to be a pretty good wrestler.
Post by dinkinflicka on Feb 12, 2019 7:48:12 GMT -6
Every kid is different. Some kids are able to have decent results with little effort and some kids put in a ton of effort to get decent results. The thing that’s the same for all wrestlers is potential.
Find out your wrestler’s goal and ensure his/her workload is appropriate. If it’s a very high goal then you need to wrestle year-round and ensure you’ve got the right coaches and partners (you may need to move/travel) and that your wrestler is willing to learn and adjust. If his/her goal is to qualify then you can turn it down some. You just need to find out the goal and ensure the effort matches.
Easier said than done, but the sooner you can get your young athlete to be accountable and responsible for their own sporting activities the happier all will be with the experience. Parenting through this can be very difficult because we want them to do well....and sometimes it can get tough to keep them engaged when the losses are mounting. If that is the case, I would talk very little about the losses and more about the good individual things they did: effort, pace, perhaps they hit a good move or two before they were pinned, sportsmanship....you get the idea. Also, taking your young athlete to some HS and/or College events can be very helpful and motivating....they get to watch guys warm-up and take in the intensity all while watching technically sound wrestling. In the end, each season's #1 goal should be to make sure they want to do it again the next season. If you've done this, you are doing it right. Good luck!